Many of my Houston marriage counselor clients complain about having “reactionary” spouses, though most of them probably wouldn’t phrase it that way. What is a “reactionary” person? They’re the type who open the electric bill and are so shocked that they call you to yell about how the family needs to stop watching TV, get […]
You don’t have to be the Houston marriage counselor to know that defensiveness causes a lot of problems in relationships. In my last post, I described how this unfortunate reflex can keep us from learning from our mistakes and trying to improve. Unfortunately, though, there are so many ways to be defensive that getting past […]
I see it all the time with my Houston relationship therapy clients. The second their spouse even hints at something they might not have done well, hackles are raised and the other person begins defending him or herself. “Well, that was only because you said…” or “You do the same thing!” On the one hand, […]
In many of my Houston marriage counselor sessions, I find myself telling clients to try out that old saw of using “I” statements instead of “You” statements. Most of them have heard a version of this before, but few really understand what “I” and “You” statements really are and why they can provide a lot […]
